Broaching the topic of assisted living with your aging mom or dad can be a sensitive and challenging conversation. However, addressing their changing needs and exploring the benefits of assisted living can lead to positive outcomes and improved quality of life for both parents and their adult children. Here are some signs it’s time to start the conversation and tips for talking about assisted living with your aging parents.
Recognizing When It’s Time
For many families, the decision to move a parent or family member to assisted living is based on the realization that the older adult requires more help than the caregiver can offer. Here are some things to watch for to identify the right time to begin the transition.
- Chronic or worsening health problems
- Forgetfulness, such as not remembering to take medications, unpaid bills, and missed appointments
- Mobility issues, including trouble walking and climbing stairs
- Poor hygiene or changes in appearance
- Dramatic changes in mood, such as fatigue, irritability, or depression
Navigating the Conversation
1. Start the conversation early.
It is never too early to begin talking to your parents about their plans for later in life. Waiting for a major health or life event to change before you start the conversation will only make the discussions and transitions more difficult. Involve siblings, other family members, and healthcare providers as well so that everyone is on the same page and can provide positive, helpful support throughout the process.
2. Approach the conversation with empathy and respect.
When discussing the prospect of assisted living with your older loved one, acknowledge that this topic may feel overwhelming for them, and assure them that you’re having this conversation out of love and concern for their well-being. Listen actively to their perspective and validate their emotions throughout the conversation.
3. Involve them in the decision-making process.
It is important that you empower your loved one to be an active participant in the decision-making process regarding assisted living. Encourage them to express their preferences and concerns. Involve them in exploring different options and touring potential communities in the area.
4. Emphasize the positive aspects.
When discussing the transition to senior living with your elderly loved one, highlight the positives aspects that assisted living can provide, rather than dwelling on perceived limitations or fears. Share testimonials from other seniors who have benefitted from assisted living.
Remind your loved ones of the benefits of downsizing and assisted living life. These include:
- Maintenance-free living and housekeeping
- Companionship
- 24/7 safety and assistance from trained professionals as needed
- Planned programs and social activities
- Access to health care
- Prepared, home-cooked meals
- Resort-style amenities and services
- Peace of mind for themselves and their family
5. Be patient.
Be patient and understanding as you navigate the conversation about assisted living with your older loved one. Recognize that it may take time for them to process the information, weigh their options, and come to a decision about this big life transition.
Assisted Living at Country Place Senior Living
At Country Place Senior Living, we’ve journeyed alongside many families to make their loved one’s move to assisted living as smooth and stress-free as possible. Our assisted living neighborhood is designed to give seniors back the vibrant lifestyle they’ve enjoyed for years, all while enhancing their independence and providing the support they need. To learn more about our community and assisted living services, contact Country Place Senior Living today.
