Deciding that it is time for your older parent or loved on to move into an assisted living community is never easy. This is especially true if they are resisting the idea to receive extra support or to leave their family home. It is important to understand that this resistance is common and often comes from a place of fear, uncertainty, and desire to maintain independence.
The good news is that with the right approach, family members can help their parents understand the many benefits of assisted living. Here are some strategies to make the transition smoother.
1. Listen To Their Concerns
It is important that you have open and honest conversations about assisted living with your parent. Ask them to share their feelings and hesitations about moving into an assisted living community. Are they afraid of losing their independence? Do they fear the unknown or have misconceptions about what assisted living entails? Acknowledge your parent’s feelings of loss, fear, or sadness, and let them know that it’s okay to feel this way. By offering empathy and understanding, you can help your parent feel supported and less alone in their emotions.
2. Involve Them in the Decision-Making Process
Whenever possible, involve your parent in the decision-making process. Allow them to tour different communities, ask questions, and express their preferences. Help your loved one feel like an active participant in the process by showing them their opinion matters.
3. Highlight the Positive Aspects
If your senior loved one is resistant to assisted living, help shift their negative perspective by highlighting the positive aspects of senior living communities. Emphasize the opportunities for socialization, access to activities and amenities, and the support of trained staff who can assist with daily tasks. Remind them of the positive outcomes, such as improved safety, social opportunities, and the peace of mind that comes with knowing they are in a supportive environment.
4. Recruit Help From a Trusted Professional
In some cases, it can be helpful to have a professional, such as a doctor or geriatric care provider, meet and share the benefits of assisted living with your loved one. These professionals can provide an objective perspective and offer trusted reassurance about the care and support available in an assisted living community.
5. Tour Local Communities Together
A great way to alleviate fears about assisted living is to visit local communities together. While you are there, meet with current residents and staff members, participate in activities, and have meal in the dining room. This firsthand experience can help your parent see that assisted living is not just a place to live, but a vibrant community where they can thrive.
6. Be Patient
Finally, remember to be patient with your senior mom or dad as they consider assisted living options. This transition can be challenging for everyone involved, and it may take time for your parent to adjust. It can be helpful to take small steps, such as introducing the concept gradually or starting with a short-term stay or respite care options.
Bottom line: When it becomes clear that your senior loved one would benefit from assisted living, convincing them to make the transition can be challenging. Resistance to the idea is common, often rooted in fear, loss of independence, or a reluctance to leave a familiar home. By understanding their concerns, involving them in decisions, highlighting the benefits, and being patient, you can help make the transition smoother and ensure that your parent feels supported and respected throughout the journey.
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